Preventing Infidelity - Advice

To reduce the chances of infidelity

There are a number of ways to reduce the chances of infidelity destroying your relationship. These include:

• Avoid social events or activities that leads to temptation - The Divorce Statistics has shown that couples who tend to spend time with other couples that value monogamous relationships tend to stay together and avoid the temptation of infidelity. This is because:

  1. Before infidelity occurs people tend to go through a phase of discussing their interest in another partner with their friends. If the friend values a monogamous relationship then the friend will provide the partner with the right advice.
  2. Spending time with couples who value monogamous relationship means you and your partner are less likely to be miss-lead by the temptations of the life style of a single person.

• Be aware of the social dance classes that involve close body contact with anyone other than your partner. This specially applies to Latin dance classes that involve couples swapping partners while dancing. This does not mean that you should avoid dancing but you should just be aware of their dangers, and where possible, you should avoid dancing with anyone else other than your partner.
• Be frank and honest with yourself - Do recognize the temptation to have affairs. Most people tend to ignore this until its too late!
• Be frank and honest with your partner if you feel attracted to someone else. Divorce Statistics has shown that "the thrill of the chase" is one of the biggest factors in why people are drawn to infidelity. By openly acknowledging to your partner that you seem to be attracted to someone else, will take the "thrill" out of the equation. This then means you are far less likely to act on the temptation (be careful in the way you explain this to your partner).
• Don't flirt with others (This includes via e-mail, sms, phone or in person). Flirting may seem like a bit of harmless fun, but, flirting does eventually lead to affairs. This may not necessarily be with the person you are flirting with, but, the laws of probability states that if you flirt with enough people, its only a matter of time before you want to take it to the next level. Do not be tempted by this Russian Roulette!
• Do not underestimate Work. This does not mean you must avoid Work (that'll be impractical and a rather silly thing to do), it just means that by recognizing that you are in a "Danger Zone", you are less likely to be tempted by affairs. You need to be specially aware of situations where you may be going away on a business trip, or where you have regular lunches or coffee breaks with some one from work.
• Try not to see or keep in contact with your ex-partner. If you cann't avoid it, then make sure your current partner is also present when you do meet up.
• Another common reason why infidelity occurs is because one partner feels neglected. If you feel you are not getting the "attention" you seek from your partner, make sure you either talk to your partner about it or you see a relationship counselor.

Some useful infidelity information:

• Spotting the common signs of infidelity: Marriage Counseling - Infidelity Signs
• Confronting Infidelity: Marriage Counseling - Confront Infidelity
• Winning back your partner: Marriage Counseling - Infidelity advice
• Recovering from Infidelity: Marriage Counseling - Recovering from Infidelity