Marriage Counseling - Self deluded

People often delude themselves in a relationship not because they are necessarily aware of it. We all need certain amount of self-deception to keep us feeling positive about ourselves and ward off depression. However, in extreme cases, it becomes damaging to the relationship and everyone involved. Taking responsibility for what is really happening in the relationship. Quite often one partner refuses to admit that the relationship is in trouble.

So what are the signs of someone who is deceiving themselves:

• A person refuses to listen to advice from those closest to them. Please see marriage counseling and listening to help your partner to develop their listening skills.
• A person finds themselves practicing stories or excuses in advance of a conversation.
• Exaggerating stories each time the same story is told.
• Constantly using euphemisms to describe one's own short falls.
• People who delude themselves almost always remember the positive comments and ignore the negative ones.

Research has shown that the level of self-deception comes down to how concerned a person is about how others see them. People who delude themselves tend to be more concerned about portraying themselves to others in a positive light.

Unfortunately, self-deception to an extreme can only be helped with expert help of a trained counselor.