marriage counseling - Perfectionism

Perfectionism is a hard behaviour to live with, both for the perfectionist or their partner. However, there are things you could do to overcome perfectionism:

Imagine your self as a third party person. If that person made the same expectations of themselves, are they being reasonable by setting such high standards?
Considering your childhood and growing up, did you feel you thrived on positive feedback.
If you feel over burdened, is everything you are currently undertaken really necessary. Are there things you could be delegating?
If you fear making mistakes, then may be you should try and make a small one (like emailing with a typo) and see if anything happens. Understand that making mistakes is ok and no one would think any less of you.
If you fear loosing or not being the best, try new hobbies which you have no experience in (could be sports or a simple evening class)
Confess to a mistake you have made. If confessing to your partner is difficult, try a colleague or a friend first.
Always consider the "costs" of your high standards. Is the stress, on yourself and your marriage, really worth the result of setting such high standards.
If after all this, your marriage is still in trouble as a result of your perfectionism, then do consider marriage counseling. Counseling is not admission of failure!

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