Marriage counseling - Perfectionism

Perfectionism is a hard behavior to live with, both for the perfectionist and their partner. However, there are things that could be done to overcome perfectionism:

The perfectionist partner should imagine them self as a third party person, then consider if the expectations and the high standards are reasonable and what potential consequences these may have on some one else.
Consideration should be given to the possibility that the perfectionism behavior often stems from a desire for positive feedback during their childhood. The perfectionist person can then ascertain why this positive feedback is, and has been, so important to them.
A typical perfectionism behavioral trait is the inability to delegate work to others, as such a perfectionist person will often feel over burdened by work. Therefore to counter act a perfectionist behavior a person should consider trusting other people enough to delegate some of their work. It is important to start by delegating work that are not deemed essential and so not having to worry about any consequences.
A perfectionist person often fears making mistakes. Therefore this behavior can be countered by purposely making small mistakes in situations that are not consequential, such as emailing some one and purposely making typo mistakes. This will re-program the perfectionist's mind to appreciate that its okay to make mistakes and it will have no bearing on other people's perception.
To counter act the fear of loosing or not being the best, a perfectionist person can try new hobbies, be it sports or academic activities, which makes them less likely to be the best. This will enable the perfectionist person to adapt to the concept of loosing in a way as not to affect their self-esteem, for it can be justified away as being a novice in that field.
Admission to mistakes is very difficult for a perfectionist person and as such it is important to practice confession with people who are not likely to pass any judgement.
In marriage counseling a marriage counselor will always try to highlight the personal costs associated with a perfectionism behavior. These costs are often in the form of anxiety attacks, stress and unbearable strain placed upon the relationship. The perfectionist person is then encouraged to contemplate as to whether this behavior is worth all the associated consequences.

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