marriage counseling - Power struggle

Marriage Counseling can help parents resolve the Power Struggles brought about as the result of differences in parenting techniques. So how could you end the parenting power struggle?

Avoid getting into arguments about discipline, diet or schools. Instead, try holding debate style discussions.
Never argue about the child in front of the child as this results in each couple trying to save face in front of the child, rather than what's actually good for the child. Also, its very upsetting, confusing and guilt inducing for the child.
Try to avoid inconsistencies that encourages a child to play off one parent against the other. If a child asks permission for something that could be problematic, refuse to give an answer until you have had a chance to discuss it with your partner. If the child pressures you to giving an answer, ask if the other parent has also been consulted (its important to remind children that as a rule they must not ask for something of you if the other parent has already given an answer).
Discuss the rules with your partner before they are set in front of the child.
Explain what you think and why, both with your children and with your partner. Under no circumstance should you side with your children behind your partner's back. This puts pressure on the child, even if the child gets what they want, dividing their loyalties.
If the child comes to you about being unfairly treated by the other parent, its important that you say "I understand and I will deal with it". Its important that to emphasis to the child that this is a problem between your partner and your child. Then, you can discuss the matter with your partner when the child is not around. If you manage to change your partner's view on the matter, then its important for the partner to have the discussion with the child and to explain that they have had a change of mind on the matter. This makes the child feel subconsciously secure in the knowledge that the parents are united and are "in love".
If you do argue in front of the child then its important that the child also sees you working it out together.
If there is a real disagreement, there may be an underlying problem in your relationship. Seek the help by going to marriage counseling.

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