Marriage Counseling - Relationship types

A successful relationship is dependent on the way a couple interact with one another and therefore understanding this interaction is the key to reducing behavioral conflicts, an approach that is the basis of PEYMA's marriage counselling service. There are many studies into the variants of the relationship behaviors, one of which has theorised the concept that every individual will exhibit one of the following six fundamental relationship behavioral types. 

Eros Relationship type

The Eros types tend to have strong physical attraction to one another, as well as having a sense of inevitability about the relationship. People that exhibit this behavior feel that the relationship was meant to be. Eros types tend to fall in love at first sight and tend to want to spend a lot of time with each other and expect it to be very involved.

Ludus Relationship Type

The Ludus types feel that a relationship is a game to be played with diverse partners over time. This means the Ludus types tend to be non-committal and as such enjoy the chase and dislike partners that are clingy and or possessive. It is strongly recommended that any partner of a Ludus type person should avoid being possessive or set any expectations on them. It is also recommended for the partner to maintain a separate social circle to the Ludus type person and when together to focus primarily on having fun, also avoiding any heavy discussions.

Storage Relationship Type

The Storage types tend to be friends first and then wait for the sexual relationship to develop. The Storage types tend to want, and need, a foundation to build a relationship on. If a partner is the Storage type then love and support should be expected rather than excitement and surprises.

Pragma Relationship Type

The Pragma types tend to be logical and calculating about the relationship, rather than follow their heart. The Pragma types tend to plan ahead and decide the type of partner they will fall in love with before they have even met them. The Pragma type tends to almost have a checklist that they use to decide whether or not a relationship should happen. If a partner is of the Pragma type, then any extravagant spending or over dramatic behavior should be curtailed.

Mania Relationship Type

The Mania types tend to be intensely emotional, alternating between ecstasy and agony. The Mania type people tend to be more volatile in the relationship. There is also a lot of feeling of insecurity about the relationship. There is a constant feeling of doubt that the partner may not feel the same intensity of love as they do. Sex is usually then used as a feeling to gain greater intimacy and closeness in the relationship. There also tend to be dramatic fights and making up within the relationship. If a partner is of the Mania type, it is important not to give them reasons to be suspicious, as they tend to fear the worst. At the same time, don't put up with the possessiveness or dependency and try to remain stable and predictable.

Agape Relationship Type

The Agape types tend to be very giving and always put the partner's interest and welfare above one's own. The Agape type tend to want to work as a team, although, the sex life tends not to be as important. With an Agape type partner, don't be selfish or attempt to take advantage of their generous nature. It is also important to remember that their kindness is based in self-confidence and inner strength and not because they are weak and a push over!

Marriage counseling information designed to help guide couples in choosing a suitable therapist. There are currently a number of different approaches to therapy and as such it is important for a couple to choose the approach that they feel is the suitable.

This Divorce Checklist will provide couples with a list of the more important things to consider. However, it is important to point out that divorce should only be considered as a last resort, and only when all other avenues of reconciliation have been explored and been unable to help.

Understand the effects of divorce on children and what they may be feeling. Also, what the parents should be doing to help the children cope with the divorce.

PEYMA's Relationship Questionnaire is desinged to provide Relationship Counseling without a need to attend any counseling sessions. This approach is able to provide an insight into the root cause of a behavioural conflict, as well as, how to behave in order to be more compatible.

Signs of Infidelity can help expose a relationship betrayal before it gets too involved, therefore improving the chances of recovery. Identifying these signs correctly is vital as any misjudgement can in itself lead to marital disputes and feelings of mistrust.

Recovering from infidelity is not going to be easy, but an experienced therapist can help with overcoming this affliction. It is important to recognise that a person will never forget what has taken place, but it is possible to rebuild the trust and move on.