marriage counseling - Self Oriented Perfectionist

Self-Oriented Perfectionist people tend to have unreasonable expectations and standards of themselves. Self-oriented Perfectionist strive relentlessly to achieve extremely high personal goals. This behaviour tends to cover all aspects of their lives, ranging from work to home. The problem is that when you fail to meet your own unusually high standards, then you become exceedingly self-critical. These people often tend to take on a job where they know they will succeed as failure can be a great source of frustration. In fact, this frustration is so great that a Self-Oriented Perfectionist would find it hard to even think about their mistakes, which means they then tend to hide these mistakes from their partner. The problem, however is that their partner could see this as them being deceitful. Failure often makes them raise their standard even higher to strive to make up for past shortfalls.

You can overcome your Self-Oriented Perfectionism by:

Think about why you have placed such an importance on perfecting a task. What is the actual costs associated with completing a task to the high standard you've set. For example, did you complete a project at work at the cost of your family life?
Choose a hobby that rewards you for good performance rather than perfection.
Make little mistakes on purpose, and then get used to admitting it to your partner.

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