Marriage Counseling is only effective if both couples genuinely want to attend the counseling session. The success of any marriage counseling is fundamentally dependent on timing, couples wishing to make things work and the quality of the marriage counselor. In one documented case a woman in UK spent over £54,000 (roughly $97,000 US) and still failed to save her marriage. The truth is that most couples often only think about marriage counseling when things have got really bad between them and they are on the verge of divorce. If you are having marital disputes then the recommendation is that you contact your nearest marriage counselor before you reach the point of no return.
One woman spent nearly £54,000 ($97,000 US) on marriage counseling only to end up getting divorced. In a letter to a national newspaper in 2003 this lady accused the marriage counselors as being nothing more than a fraud and compared the marriage counseling associations to tobacco companies. The national counseling association responded with the following statement:
"Ms *********, who now believes therapy is fraud, may never have been a suitable candidate for counselling. She might have realized this before spending £54,000 on treatment. Her therapy was conducted many years ago, whereas any modern therapist with ******** would have a supervisor who would insist that it's unethical to treat someone who may not be helped by the talking approach. Ms ******* is equally unjustified in comparing ****** to tobacco companies in our use of research data. The best evidence that counselling and psychotherapy are effective treatments comes from Dr Michael King's independent trial, published in December 2000, which concluded that for the majority of depressions counselling and psychotherapy are effective and cost-effective treatments."
Different types of Marriage Counseling
There are a number of approaches to marriage counseling, ranging from the private one to one sessions to the group therapy. The suitability of the approach adopted by a marriage counselor will depend very much on the couples themselves. If the couples are highly extraverted then they are more likely to benefit from the group sessions, as the group is able to mutually benefit from each other's experiences. In situations such as this a marriage counselor will mainly take on the role of a facilitator, as the group provide mutual support to one another.
There are also a large number of couples that feel uncomfortable with the concept of meeting a marriage counselor, either by attending a marriage counseling session or by having a counselor visiting them. In situations such as this, there are marriage counselors who offer online counseling services. However, these Online Counseling services can be highly subjective. The accuracy of these services is hindered by the fact that they are primarily email based, and as such is very much dependent on the objectivity of the person writing it. In cases where a couple, for what ever reason, feel unable to see a counselor in person then there is also a revolutionary remote counseling service that is highly recommended in addressing the root cause of a behavioral dispute. This new approach is certainly far more accurate that the Online Counseling services, and is even thought of as more accurate, objective and cost effective than the traditional approach to meeting a counselor in person.
The latest approach to Marriage Counseling
Over the past few years, the research into human behavior has revolutionized our understanding into the human psyche. This is because with an increased governmental and corporate financial backing, the research establishments have been able to carry out more in-depth studies into human behavior. The result of these studies is influencing every aspect of our lives, from Sales and Marketing to catching criminals. The by-product of one of these studies has given birth to a new and more accurate approach to Relationship Counseling, resulting in a far more accessible, objective, and cost effective approach to counseling. The advantage of this approach is based on its ability to accurately identify the root cause of a behavioral conflict with out a need for a single counseling session. This approach enables a specially trained relationship counselor to, accurately and objectively, identify the root cause of the behavioral dispute and make the necessary recommendations to over come them. Please note that this approach is limited to addressing behavioral conflicts and disputes only as the divorce rate has indicated this to be the largest category for which divorce has been granted.
The behavioral interaction of the couple is determined using a specially designed relationship questionnaire, which is completed and submitted online. The specially trained counselor is then able to determine the Interaction Model of each partner based on the answers provided, and therefore ascertaining the root cause of the behavioral conflict. The benefits of this unique approach are:
- Accessibility - This approach is accessible online to any English speaking couple without the need for the couple to attend any of the counseling sessions. Therefore both partners are able to discover and understand each other's behavior in the relationship, as well as how to positively interact with one another in order to resolve any behavioral conflicts.
- Accuracy - This approach has been shown to be highly accurate in behavioral conflict resolution, as each partner is able to clearly understand and appreciate the behavior of the other, as well as exactly what should be done to be more compatible.
- Affordability - Considering the traditional approach to relationship counseling involves the couple having to attend numerous counseling sessions before it can be effective, it can become very expensive. This new approach is able to accurately and objectively determine the root cause of a behavioral conflict without a need for a couple to attend a single counseling session.
- Objectivity - The effectiveness of a Relationship Counseling session is dependent on the counselor's experience in determining the root cause of the couple's disputes, the progress of which is often hindered by the recollection of each partner's perspective of what has occurred in the past. This is often the case because each partner is emotionally hurting, which makes their judgement highly subjective. The new approach however has revolutionised this process, as the questionnaire focuses on general behavior rather than specific recollection of events and confrontations. The questionnaire is then used to determine the behavioral model of each partner, making it far more accurate in determining the root cause of a behavioral dispute. Even traditional marriage counselors are now starting to utilize this service to help with their more difficult cases!
- Avoiding any social and cultural stigma - There is still a huge stigma attached to people using relationship counselors. A recent survey has shown that this stigma often stems from the embarrassment of having been seen as a "failure"! The revolutionary new approach however requires no counseling sessions, making it highly confidential and private.
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