Marriage Counseling - Relationship Advice

The following is an example of one such Relationship Advice enquiry:

"Hi, I have a quick question. I am 18 years old and have a 17 year old girlfriend. Yesterday morning a student at my school died. She was my age and she was even in a couple of my classes. I had hung out with her like twice before and talked to her a few other times. My girlfriend probably knew her just as much as i did if not less because she didnt even know her name. When she heard the announcement about the girl who died she was like who is that? and then someone showed her and then she got extremely emotional. I know that it is a sad thing when someone passes away but the way she handled it was annoying to me. She was like balling and she even left school and the thing is she is the ONLY one that i know that took it that hard. I know the girl who died's best friend and even she handled it better than my girlfriend. I was as supportive as i could be and nice about it yesterday but now shes still being all bummed today and its really getting to me because she barely even knew her and something is telling me that the main reason she is reacting this way is because she is looking for attention. But I obviously cant say that to her and so I guess im just wondering what do I do? Is it selfish and mean of me to get annoyed by this? Im pretty sure if she is STILL all depressed or whatever tomorrow about this I'm going to just blow up, and thats not going to be good. So can you help me please? What should i do? "

The Relationship Advice provided by PEYMA:

When I first read your e-mail my initial reaction was "yes she is trying to get attention", however, I feel the truth is that both of you are actually shaken up by the death of your class mate (even though you probably don't realise it now). The fact is that at your age no one ever thinks about death (and you shouldn't either). As far as you are concerned you are young and will live forever. When something like this happens it hits home that may be things are not eternal. It'll make you question a lot of things about your life. The question that most people often ask themselves is "what if it happens to me or some one I love?". Have you thought that may be she is not actually upset because this girl (that she didn't really know) died and that may be she is just worried that the same might happen to her or someone close to her (which that someone may even be you!!!)? What ever you do, do not get angry with her over this. It'll only make matters worse!

"Thank you and ya I already talked to her about it and that is exactly what it was. She said it just opened her eyes and she realized what could happen.... Thanks!"

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